I work with many engaged couples. It is not unusual for them to think they are marrying their Soul Mate. My experience is that the women buy into this much more than the men do, although there are plenty of men who think the same thing.
Recently a study out of the University of Winnipeg in Canada reported that women are more likely to become bored in their marriage than men. When asked to choose descriptors for their own marriage the most frequent answer was that the relationship was "dull." Other commonly picked answers included "lack of fun," "lack of conversation," and "lack of romance."
When you combine this with the fact that women initiate over two thirds of divorces in the United States, you can quickly realize that their soul mate has become their stale mate. That is definitely not good if you want to have a lifelong marriage.
How is it that the person they could not stand to be away from for even a moment, the person who fulfilled their partner's every need has become dull and boring? As important as that question is, the more important question is to ask what can a couple do to make sure they don't become stale mates.
What are your thoughts on this? What can couples do to keep their marriage relationship alive and exciting?
Next post I'll give you some of my ideas.
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