I just finished reading I Promise To Hate, Despise, and Abuse You Until Death Do Us Part, Marriage in a Narcissistic Age. Quite a title for a book, wouldn't you say?
The authors premise is that there are more narcissists, the vast majority of them men, than ever before and many of them are married. While these men may be charming during courtship and engagement, their true colors show once they are married.
Narcissists are manipulative, controlling, self centered and are incapable of having a relationship that requires mutuality. Typically, the wife, who thought she was marrying a charming, wonderful man, quickly finds out that her husband and their marriage are not at all what she thought they would be.
I am reminded that Dr. John Van Epp and others strongly encourage individuals to take their time, which to Van Epp is a minimum of two years, when considering to marry someone. Hopefully, within two years each person could see what the other is really like and possibly avoid the pitfall of marrying a narcissist.
Then, couples can truly live out their Catholic wedding vows: I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.
The authors premise is that there are more narcissists, the vast majority of them men, than ever before and many of them are married. While these men may be charming during courtship and engagement, their true colors show once they are married.
Narcissists are manipulative, controlling, self centered and are incapable of having a relationship that requires mutuality. Typically, the wife, who thought she was marrying a charming, wonderful man, quickly finds out that her husband and their marriage are not at all what she thought they would be.
I am reminded that Dr. John Van Epp and others strongly encourage individuals to take their time, which to Van Epp is a minimum of two years, when considering to marry someone. Hopefully, within two years each person could see what the other is really like and possibly avoid the pitfall of marrying a narcissist.
Then, couples can truly live out their Catholic wedding vows: I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.
That sounds better doesn’t it?
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